Life is a rollercoaster

One hundred failed might have been flings, affairs, relationships and love stories I heard about in the last years. And a few good ones. The failed ones always have one thing in common. If it doesn't take off properly from the start in terms of full conviction- there is usually a very good reason. Either one part is not really a single (but of course telling so), not really willing to bond, not honestly considering leaving the current partner or a mind-f*** freak. Every time there are doubts, there is usually sooner or later an "Alice in wonderland" experience. Why is it so difficult for people to be honest with each other? Why can people not say right from the start what they are looking for? We are grown up people, pretend to be open minded and reflected. Why is it then so difficult to communicate honestly? Do all women/ men want to hear the "Cinderella looking for Prince Charming" story? I don't believe it. I do believe there is a partner for every wish somewhere out there and we all could safe time, tears and reflections if we just speak out what we want.